18 Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
19 Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
20 And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?
21 For the ways of man are before the eyes of the Lord, and he pondereth all his goings. ~Proverbs 5:18-21
Marriage was created by God as a gift to humanity and the marriage bed is one of the beautiful pleasures of this union. It is momentously wrong thinking for someone to accuse God of being against sex. He was, and is so pro-sex that He created sex. It is God’s master design that a husband and wife would be fully engaged, mentally, emotionally, cooperatively, and physically. God promotes passionate physical love between a husband and wife and it is not shy in saying so.
The difference between God’s design for sex and the world’s perversion is God’s design is meant to be more than the physical act and the short lived rutting of two mammals. The marriage bed is a physical representation of everything that marriage is supposed to be. The couple gives and receives pleasure (the give and take that we are always hearing about). They strip away all barriers and expose themselves to each other (true intimacy).
The Bible says the two become one flesh. The sexual relationship between a husband and wife is an outward expression of the true oneness that is meant to be in the marriage relationship. But this oneness goes far deeper than a simple physical coupling. It is a shared life, with shared goals, and hopes, and dreams of a shared future together. Out of that oneness comes the act of creation. Procreation is just part of that creative act. In marriage we become something new and something more than we were before. For many, a part of that is becoming a father or a mother, but first we are meant become husbands and wives to prepare us for the selflessness that parenthood demands of us. Before we are married, we were singles and after marriage the man and woman is a couple with one life together. Our life is expanded to encompass more than our self, forcing us to think beyond “me” and consider “we” first and above the individual. Our understanding grows as we truly begin to see another and begin to see our self through the eyes of our spouse. We grow beyond the understanding of our own gender and begin to see and understand the world from the other genders prospective.
The world tries to tell you that losing yourself in a marriage is a bad thing, but losing yourself is exactly what needs to happens. You lose the most narrow parts of yourself. From a narrow perspective, you gain a wider and more diverse understanding. From a self centered love, you gain a more Christ like, sacrificial love worth devoting life, vigor, and passion to protect. By God’s design, if we lose anything in marriage it is more than adequately replaced with something better and more fulfilling.
The world has attempted to divorce sexual relationships from the context of marriage and in doing so they cheapened intimacy and robbed marriage of some of its luster. Marriage is meant to be a life long commitment and we are meant to only give our self within the protection of a life long bound. What God desires for you is far richer and far more fulfilling than the cheap knock off the world is trying to pass off as fun. The dignity of your body and your self worth should demand more than “fun” as payment. God has true intimacy built into His plan for marriage from the ground up.
In this passage the author is admonishing his son to look for fulfillment within what God has designed to be the most fulfilling, the most gratifying, and the most constructive outlet for desire: the marriage bed. Revel in the passion of your wife he instructs, let your desires flourish where those desires will bless you. Let thy fountain be blessed. We would be wise to heed this sound advise.
I hate to have to bring the next topic up, but due to recent accusations directed at the Bible it is unfortunately necessary to address the ramblings of fools. These fools do not know the Bible, nor understand how the full scope of the text ties together to teach us God’s will in our life. There are those who would say the Bible promoted polygamy and this couldn’t be further from the truth. Though the Bible in the Old Testament permitted it, it is certainly not an endorsement. Furthermore nothing is ever positively said about the topic. Every example of a relationship where polygamy enters into the relationship we see a train wreck and a strong argument as to why polygamy is an awful idea. Abraham took Sarah’s handmaiden to wife and that ends in heartache and the separation of father and son. Jacob took two wives and he had strife in his house nearly all his days. David took several wives and his whole family was a ruin. Solomon, who wrote this, took over 1,000 women and he was made a fool in the end allowing himself to be lead into idolatry. He was supernaturally gifted with wisdom, yet his unchecked desire lead to the demise of an united kingdom. Solomon gives this advise from a position of experience: “Passionately love your wife and live the fulfilling life of a man within the will of God.”
God Bless You,